Friday Tale - Own Your Scars T he young man was still not married, and not so young anymore. He would be set up with one girl after another. But after the first date, girls just didn’t want to see him again. They didn’t tell him why, but the large scar on his cheek was just hard to look at. He knew this. He felt short-changed sometimes. After all, he really was an amazing fellow, with a big heart and sterling character. So he went to visit the great sage, Rabbi Chaim Kanievsky. “Rabbi,” he says tearfully, “I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be lonely. I want to be a husband, and a father.” And he told him that he is certain that his physical appearance is the problem. That scar… The Rabbi suggested to him softly, “the next time you meet a girl, bring up your scar in conversation! Tell her about it, how you got it, how it makes you feel.” Own it, speak of it with confidence, and without shame, the Rabbi was telling him. An interesting idea, to